Marriage is a difficult and complex institution. Its complexity has scared many people from getting married. To be married or not to be married is not an easy decision to make. Even when it has been made, it has consequences. In the register of marriage there are people who regret having married the person he or she did, even when the marriage survives. Many people live thinking and regretting, “I married the wrong person.”
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There is nothing like love-made-in-heaven. All loves and marriages are made by men and women within the conditions in which they live. Living conditions are complex. The truth about the person you are getting married to unfolds only after you have got married. On the ground, many people live with their marriage partners not because of goodness but as a matter of convenience in addressing their imaginary expectations.
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He who wants education complies with demands of education that he must sacrifice time and effort to demands of studying. No shortcut. Marriage has similar demands. Marriage is a shrine in which you must live sacrificing something lest the god of love puts you to shame.
The thought that the person you are madly in love with now and the one you think was created for loving you, is just a dream. Take it home with you that the person you are now wedding, exchanging wedding rings, is fully armed to do good and bad things to you. All marriages which ended in divorce or became nightmares, started in full-blown love.
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It is not true the person you are marrying will be truthful always. The person is armed with human weaknesses that include jealousy. From time to time, he or she will lie to you; exploit you; backbite you; be selfish and act stupidly. When you reach the stage of the worst, he or she will want the worst fall upon you. You are marrying your competitor with whom to trade your emotions, some of them very ugly.
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The person you are marrying has secrets, some of which you will never know. It is not impossible to say that, from time to time, you will get tired of listening to the person and even get tired of making love. A married person who sleeps with someone else outside the marriage is doing so because of a reason. No one steals food until he’s hungry but doesn’t get food. Or, as they say, for a change. At one time one can get tired of eating the best and goes for less. Sweetness alternates with bitterness. Marriage is an extra-long journey, and, at one stage, one wants a break.
A woman who is beautiful and thinks that her husband must never see another woman outside is lying to her conscience. It will matter a lot regarding in what package she offers that beauty to the husband to make him not see another woman. A beautiful woman can be a nightmare to her husband. So can be a good-looking man. Also, the package in which a man offers her husbandry to his wife will determine the quality of appreciation with which she reciprocates.
